The Stylish Crossdresser

stylish womanWe talk a lot about fashion and style and why having style is important whether you are “in the closet” an occasional cross-dresser out and about, nearly full time or a transitioned girl. You are perceived as you dress and it effects how people treat you. Dressing well and being stylish is worth your time as I know from personal experience.

When I stepped out for the first time I had all the same fears as most, but not once in all the years that I have been cross-dressing in public have I had an incident. I attribute this to taking care to present as a lady whether it was in a casual or a formal environment,  Style is a personal thing and each of us has our preferred look, but those who know the secrets of style are the ones we look up to.

So, now we present to you the Stylish Crossdresser, girls that have mastered the techniques of a womanly appearance in both presentation and manner,  and are perceived as being stylish in the woman’s world, not just ours. These ladies are the style icons of the transgender world and we have much to learn from them.

Carollyn Faith Olson (CA)

Vikki La Fontaine (NJ)

Donna Kelli (CA)

Lady Claire Stafford (AUS)

Diana Renee Baker (CA)

Cheri Amor (CO)

Nadine Spirit (WA)

Candy Kowal (IL)

Rita Doyle (CA)

Nora Simone (VA)

Steffie Michaels (NC)

Hannah McKnight (MN)

Christina Napoli

Heidi Phox (CA)  Coming

Gyllian Symthe (UK)  Coming

Three of our ladies gather in Sacramento

stlish crosdressers in Sacramento CA

2nd from left Carollyn Olson, then Nora Simone and Diana Baker

Dressing Styles
We all have our favorite style from ultra feminine to the casual jeans outfit, or perhaps the business look or Bohemian or the look of pure elegance. We explore them all here. This section talks about the various dressing styles and how to achieve them. And you only find this on Sister House
  • A Primer on Understanding the Different Fashion Styles posted on November 5, 2018.
    What are fashion styles...well it's hard to define. We are going to look at some current names women use to describe their fashion styles then help you find your style More
  • Bohemian Style Defined posted on July 24, 2017.
    The Boho or Bohemian style came from the hippy movement of the 60s/70s and then again in the early 2000s and is characterized by a long flowing look. We explore all those looks here and the ladies that made it famous More
  • What Fashion Style Are You? posted on July 22, 2017.
    Fashion is forever as is fashion style. Fashion is completely transparent. It’s fun, it’s confusing, and it never dies off. Fashions from the past are still being worn by women across the country and new fashions are being designed every day. There’s SO many different fashion styles, and we’ve come up with a list of the top 20 looks, from elegant to gothic, exotic to casual, and everything in between. More
Visibility With Style

Kandi Robbins is a dresser extraordinaire. This girl from Cleveland, Ohio has that inborn sense of style that most of us could only wish for and she has been accepted by her women friends unquestioningly despite what male traits she feels are evident. Kandi will join us each month with her advice for going out and being in public with the real life interactions with the men and women surrounding her. There will be plenty of photos to illustrate her style.

Recent Posts:

  • Acceptance by Volunteering - Part 2 posted on December 20, 2018.
    In Part 2 of Acceptance by Volunteering, Kandi Robbins talks about the many cultural, LGBT, and charitable organizations that she works for with complete acceptance. More
  • Acceptance by Volunteering - Part 1 posted on September 15, 2018.
    Volunteering is perhaps one of the best ways to gain acceptance by the cis-gender community because it creates visibility, Kandi has a sure proof way to be visible and accepted by the ladies in your community More
  • A Welcoming Church posted on August 18, 2018.
    Kandi Robbins discusses a fulfilling way to be visible by finding a place with a sense of community. For her, it's her church and it's a great place to dress More
  • Visibility With Style - an Introduction posted on July 20, 2018.
    Visibility with style is Kandi's new monthly column for Sister House. Our purpose is to provide readers with real world advice on getting out in the mainstream public and doing so with style! More
  • A Jazzy Evening posted on January 14, 2018.
    There's nothing quite as special as a jazzy evening. Kandi talks about her special dress and special evening when attending the Cleveland Jazz Orchestra. More

Looks Women Love

What look do you love. Each week we capture new looks from Pinterest but we have now expanded this section to include stylish and trendy new looks in the stores that are exciting to wear and hopefully will be around for a while

That said, each week I get a summary of the looks most pinned by others and to some degree they represent the dreams and aspirations of all women. So click on the link below to see the looks most favored by our readers along with the best looks that I’ve recently seen. Maybe the look will work for you too.

About Pinterest:

More than 85,000 people, mostly women, visit the Sister House Pinterest page each month and from 200 to 250 images, sometimes more, are saved to their personal Pinterest pages each week. The Sister House Pinterest page contains more than 100 different albums on all areas of fashion and style and since most of you know that an image captures your attention far more quickly than the written word, you can create your own special looks from among the 1000s of looks posted daily on Pinterest.

See our top feminine looks here

Putting it Together

Putting it Together
Lori will help you unravel the mysteries of choosing your clothes and putting together great outfits. She’ll share with you the secrets that girls seem to know since birth.

  • A Primer in Accessorizing to Flatter Your Look posted on July 3, 2018.
    Accessorizing is a learned skill that trans and genetic women need to master. Sally McGraw gives us a primer in art of accessorizing for a flattering look More
  • One Piece - Many Looks posted on January 22, 2018.
    Nadine Feil is a very stylish German crossdresser and in this blog post, One Piece - Many Looks, she aptly demonstrates just how to transform a few essential pieces, like a cardigan and a blazer, into many really great street style looks More
  • Am I Stylish posted on December 15, 2017.
    Am I stylish? I've been told so. Introducing our latest fashion columnist, Kandi Robbins from Cleveland...a girl who knows how to "put it together" More
  • So You Think Pajamas Aren't Chic? posted on December 15, 2017.
    Donnakelli in pajamas! Chic? Maybe. Donna had a great time in December visiting restaurants, listening to Handel’s Messiah, and shopping. All fun events More
  • The Weathergirl Look posted on October 23, 2017.
    Donnakelli has a signature look which she has coined the “Weathergirl Look”. It’s a sheath dress that is stylish, timeless and a perennial favorite of weathergirls and stars alike. Donnakelli tells all. And don’t miss her a “Batgirl” More
  • Summer Shopping and Fashion Finds posted on September 11, 2017.
    Donnakelli talks about her summer shopping and fashion finds. Lots of great outfits for casual wear or for the office with great hints on how to wear them. More
  • Creating the Alluring, Feminine Look posted on August 4, 2017.
    There are many styles of dressing but creating the alluring, feminine look is our ultimate goal. Think: lace, miniskirts, sheer stockings and much more. We tell you how. More
  • Creating Multiple Looks With a LBD posted on August 4, 2017.
    A little black dress or LBD is wardrobe staple for every woman. We show you how to create multiple looks with the LBD, dressing it up or dressing it down using layering techniques and accessories to achieve that stylish look More
  • Just Minutes To Create A Fabulous Outfit posted on July 20, 2017.
    It takes just minutes to make an outfit but putting together a stylish outfit can be tricky. If you don't do it everyday, as most crossdressers don't, then here is a simple formula that you can use over and over to create all different kinds of looks, with 7 examples to help you use the formula. More
  • Don't Do This When Crossdressing posted on May 27, 2017.
    There are many don't do this when beginning to crossdress. Carollyn Olson talks about the most obvious of these don'ts. Some may surprise you. More
  • Vegas, Here We Come posted on May 3, 2017.
    Donnakelli is back with friends and fashion in Las Vegas, Portland and Los Angeles, great places to eat and great entertainment. More
  • Perfectly Me posted on February 10, 2017.
    So what goes into looking great? The right flattering look for your body, the right color and the right fit. That is what Perfectly Me is all about. Take the Style Quiz and get your complimentary Style Service, a $100 value More
  • Making the Case for Hosiery posted on January 27, 2017.
    Take a look around. Have women become passé when it comes to wearing hosiery? Carollyn Olson thinks "YES" “Women dress a lot more casually today and they don’t want to take the time to put on nylons unless it’s to impress,” says Sue, a Sales Manager at Victoria's Secret. But there are benefits to wearing hose as we see in this article More
  • Professional Image Consultation Solves Style Mysteries - Notes on a Recent Experience posted on January 12, 2017.
    If you are a serious about presenting your most natural feminine look, you have most likely wondered why certain colors and styles work well for you and others do not. A professional image consultation solves these mysteries. More
  • Fashion Rampant at Washington Holiday Party posted on December 20, 2016.
    The DC Area Trans Ladies Community Special Ladies' December Holiday Party is an fabulous event of the year and Nora Simone brings us her thoughts on preparing for the event from a style and fashion point of view. Read her "Behind the Scene" secrets for choosing her outfit and accessories....a good primer for us all. More
  • Southern California Fashion posted on November 22, 2016.
    I'm told fashion is different from coast to coast so let's look at southern California fashion. Donnakelli and her girlfriends take us on a tour of some really great places in Palm Springs and treat us to a fashion show along the way. More
  • Special Event Dresses posted on September 5, 2016.
    This month I’m going to talk about dresses for special events since I attended one in August and have two more approaching in October. Also the make-up and jewelry to accessorize daytime into evening. And introducing Michelle Popkov, a tall t-girl with style More
  • How To Dress Your Outfit Up or Down posted on September 4, 2016.
    The secrets on how to dress your outfit up or down are now revealed to you. From casual to dressy, these lessons can be learned for any outfit including the tiny style details that you don't think people will notice, but they do More
  • Great Style Ideas for Summer posted on July 25, 2016.
    I have been watching all the trends and changes in fashion over the last several months and something that never leaves us are great tops and jeans, these are kind of our fashion staples to build from. More
  • Donnakelli on Summer Fashions posted on June 4, 2016.
    It’s June and summer is here, lots of cool fabrics and fashions all over the malls and catalogs. If you are shopping for new fashions, resist the urge to buy lots of new or “fad” items. Assess your current wardrobe and get rid of what doesn’t work anymore and make room for a few new spring summer pieces. More
  • Shopping With DonnaKelli posted on May 2, 2016.
    Hi girls. This month I’m going to take you shopping with me for a day at the local mall, hopefully it won’t bore you too much. I thought I should show the hunt for our own styles and the way to achieve them. More
  • DonnaKelli and Her Stylish Friends posted on May 1, 2016.
    What I want to do now is to take this column away from me and focus on other T-girls who have an individual style that works for them. I have invited a few of my friends to submit pictures and descriptions of why a particular dress or outfit works for their body type. More
  • DonnaKelli on Style posted on April 1, 2016.
    DonnaKelli joins Sister House as our featured style columnist in "Putting It Together". As an award winning Stylish Crossdresser, DonnaKelli brings vast experience in helping other crossdressers achieve a passable and stylish look. Mark her column as your Go-To place on how to put outfits together considering all the style elements More
  • Working to Develop Your Own Personal Style posted on November 13, 2015.
    Working to develop your own personal style is a daunting task that can take years. Nadine's 5-step blueprint gives us a path to follow with likely success in your effort. More
  • Developing Your Trans Sense of Style posted on October 18, 2015.
    Developing your sense of style is one of the biggest challenges trans women face, especially early in their public life. Learning about fashion and clothing choices and figuring out what styles work best for you is no easy task until now. Follow the nine steps of our Style Puzzle to become a fabulous you. More
  • The Benefits of Belts posted on August 7, 2015.
    The benefits of belts in defining your look and your fit should not be underestimated according to Nadine Spirit. This simple accessory adds classic style and a more feminine appearance to your look More
  • Hair Apparent posted on February 12, 2014.
    Putting yourself together in a finished way involves much more than simply choosing clothes and accessories. We could compare building a “look” to building a house, because both need to begin with a solid foundation. When talking about appearance, one of the supporting walls is grooming and Lori talks about some important grooming points More
  • Don’t Turn Your Back on Help posted on December 19, 2013.
    As with most things in life, what’s behind the scene in your wardrobe is just as important as what’s out front. Let Lori introduce you to a host of "supporting cast" items that you may not know about. More
  • Balancing Wide Shoulders posted on November 21, 2013.
    Looking good in clothing cut for an X figure can be very difficult when you yourself have a V shape, and the problem intensifies if you like body-hugging clothes. While there is nothing that will suddenly shrink too-broad shoulders, there are several ways to help balance your figure, both literally and by fooling the eye. More
  • Don't Be Limited by Labels posted on October 21, 2013.
    Almost everything we buy comes from a display that indicates how the seller viewed the item. Those labels only represent where the seller thought the item would attract the most attention. Lori tells us how to really look at labels More
  • Shopping Is Not an Equal-Opportunity Activity posted on September 20, 2013.
    I learned in my teen years that shopping was not an equal-opportunity activity. Just because something is popular or “in style” doesn’t mean that it belongs in your closet. It’s a hard lesson to learn, especially if you like fashion, and it’s one that many women never do learn. Learn Lori's secrets. More
  • Your Clothes Have Moods Too posted on August 19, 2013.
    Mood. It’s a small word, but one with large importance in our daily activities. Clothing has moods too. Too often, though, TGs don’t do nearly as well in female mode. Lori tells us how to dress mood-appropriately More
  • Tiptoe Through the Tulips posted on July 6, 2013.
    Incongruity is not an asset unless you are being paid for it More

Guest Corner

Guest Corner
We have recruited a distinguished group of authors from both inside and outside the transgender community who are knowledgeable in fashion and style. Their advice is based on many years of successful experience in working with women to achieve that fabulous look. You too can be stylish with just a little effort.

  • The Best Boots For The Season posted on November 19, 2018.
    Why do women love accessories, particularly boots, so much? Anna Mc Connell, a wardrobe stylist, tells us how boots can transform your outfit and create an amazing look. More
  • Bathing Suit Shopping- Decisions, Decisions! posted on August 14, 2018.
    There are many challenges to finding a bathing suit for a crossdresser or trans girl. Join us as we share Rhonda Lee's shopping experience. It is both practical and funny More
  • Crossdresser Physical Giveaways...What Can We Do About It posted on September 5, 2017.
    No crossdresser likes to be read and it's often because of our physical giveaways. But we can disguise those giveaways. This article tells us how in easy to learn steps More
  • A Spouse's Impression at Keystone posted on April 24, 2017.
    A spouse's impression of a crossdresser is an ultimate test of femininity. There's nothing quite so damning or delightful as the feedback we get from our wives or genetic girls that we come in contact with as they see us through a different lenses then we or our friends see ourselves. So join me as we listen to Nora Simone, one of our Stylish Crossdressers, and her lovely spouse, Eva, talk about what they saw at the 2017 Keystone Conference More
  • An Interview With David de Alba posted on December 27, 2016.
    An interview of the famous female impersonator, David de Alba by Michelle Popkov. David is best known for his impersonations of Judy Garland at the once famous Finocchio Club in San Francisco More
  • Face and Body Language posted on August 24, 2016.
    Your face and body language is often the difference between perception and reality and takes both understanding and practice. Rita talks about its importance with some excellent examples of crossing your legs More
  • How can there be plus size skinny jeans?" posted on June 4, 2016.
    The appeal of skinny jeans to women is universal, but the plus size woman has her own special challenges. Gina Marie wrestles with these images and you will be amazed and amused with her solution. More
  • Beyond Purging posted on October 16, 2015.
    Claire Stafford is our author from Australia. She takes us through her life changes including depression and purging to a revitalized Claire in the future More
  • The Right to Bare Arms posted on September 10, 2015.
    Bare arms are not a giveaway for crossdressers as many have thought. We can choose to cover our arms or not as Nadine demonstrates and it will not affect how people see us. We now have more choices to be that fabulous woman More
  • Musings and Thoughts from Claire posted on June 17, 2015.
  • So You Want the Real Thing - Really posted on January 28, 2014.
    Do you fantasize about having "real breasts" and enjoying the feel as they move to your natural rhythms 24/7? Follow Teri Lynn's experience and learn. More
  • How To Buy Sensible Shoes posted on November 20, 2013.
    Finding the right shoes for your feet has been an issue for girls ever since the high heel was invented. Follow Carollyn s advice for a comfortable and classy shoe More
  • Downplaying Pantyhose and Fitting-In posted on November 1, 2013.
    Transitioning into womanhood is not such an easy task for young girls, let alone us. Lisa's thoughts on pantyhose, fitting-in, and current trends will take your dressing to a new level. The proof is in the pudding as they say More
  • Covering Flaws posted on September 7, 2013.
    Wearing women's clothes isn't always that simple. Our bodies are often much different . But, there are ways to get around our "flaws" and create an image which we can be proud to present in public. Carollyn tells how to deal with some of the major flaws. More
  • "Claire's Clio Column" posted on August 19, 2013.
    Real girls are exposed to fashion when growing and experiment. Not us, we just jump in. It's not a criticism, it's a fact. So how do we learn, Helen tells us. More
  • Dressing Appropriately posted on July 15, 2013.
    We secretly want to “be read” and Carollyn tells us why. Carollyn wants to put an END (Explore, Nurture, Develop) to things and has great advice on all facets of our presentation. More
  • Waist and Waistlines posted on June 24, 2013.
    Lisa’s fantasy is to be able to look as good as Angelina Jolie in just a bra and panties. There are different methods to get that girlish figure and Lisa will tell us how in Waist and Waistlines. More

Best Face Forward

Best Face Forward
Everything you wanted to know about make-up and how to apply it for that natural or glamorous look

  • Actually Helpful Makeup Tricks for Trans Women posted on October 24, 2018.
    We cached together a composite of some of the better makeup tricks and tips for trans women that are actually practical and helpful. These are the best on the internet and some you can download and printout for future reference. Now there is no reason not to look your very best. More
  • Thin Lips No More!!! posted on August 1, 2018.
    Raise your hand if you have thin lips. Corrie from Femme Makeovers and Lisa Eldridge have the answers and techniques to correct thin lips and you'll be more lovely More
  • Hyaluronic Acid And Your Skin posted on November 21, 2017.
    Do you want more radiant skin, then hyaluronic acid is a key ingredient for those results. Our beauty columnist, Mellissalynn, teaches us its uses. More
  • Summertime Hair Care posted on July 25, 2016.
    It's HOT, so summertime hair care is important. Our expert, Mellissa Lynn, has some great tips for us. Hope you find them helpful. More
  • The Science of Removing Makeup posted on April 7, 2016.
    Makeup removal is one of the most important techniques that you need to learn, not just for the general health of your skin, but to avoid the consequences of poor skin care in the form of blemishes, pimples, and blackheads. More
  • How To Choose and Apply the Right Foundation Color posted on March 30, 2015.
    Choosing and applying the right foundation is essential to achieving a natural looking finish to your makeup. You need to match the overtone, apply just enough and blend it well and then set it for that perfect look More
  • Beauty Tips from Countessa posted on January 7, 2015.
    Countessa from Countessa’s Closet offers these beauty tips for the New Year to enhance your most feminine every day look with a fresh and clean style. More
  • Makeup Lessons Made Easy posted on October 14, 2014.
    Makeup counter makeovers can be incredibly enlightening—until you get get home with products in hand and can’t figure out how to do it yourself. What do you apply where? And how? YSL intends to fix this problem with an ingenious new innovation: Google Glass tutorials More
  • Makeup Brushes-All About Them posted on August 17, 2014.
    We all use them but do you know the purpose of every makeup brush. Learn all you need to know in all about makeup brushes More
  • 18 Beauty Tricks I Wish I knew At 18 posted on May 1, 2014.
    There are lots of beauty secrets but Judyne Derrick of tells us the ones she wish she'd known at 18. Eighteen secrets and 18 ways to save. More
  • The Truth About Laser Hair Removal posted on March 22, 2014.
    Laser hair removal can make a hugh difference in the appearance of your legs. We follow Sally McGraw through the process and learn its effect. For the first time we can see honest results. More
  • The Art of Shaving Your Body posted on March 15, 2014.
    There's a lot to know when shaving your legs and arms to ensure your skin is smooth and there are no abrasions. Mellissa tells us all those dirty little secrets. More
  • Eye Makeup Tips for the Mature Woman posted on January 26, 2014.
    The secret to makeup when you're past 50 is not to look younger. It's to look as good and fresh as you can for your age. My goal for you is to help you gain confidence in your makeup application, so that you can step out feeling great about yourself. More
  • Contour Crazy! posted on August 19, 2013.
    Contouring can dramitically change your look. Let;s learn from the Queen of Contouring, Miss Kim Kardashian with some helpful tips from our own beauty expert, fiona More
  • A More Feminine YOU! posted on July 6, 2013.
  • The Lost Art of Shaving posted on June 12, 2013.
  • The Importance of a Primer posted on May 30, 2013.

Femme d’Certain Age

femme certain age

This title taken from a blog of the same name is our attempt to deal with the issues we have as we age, hopefully gracefully. More than 50% of transgender women are over the age of 50 and as crossdressers we have  unique challenges, do we want to blend in or do we want to stand out, all within the context of that ill-defined standard of what is “age appropriate” Just as with genetic women, our issues change from  those earlier years in our 20s, 30, and 40s to our 50s and 60s and beyond. This section talks to those issues. It is a broad brush approach that deals with our feelings about aging, the how to’s of presenting as a  mature woman to  the health  and welfare issues of being an older woman.

  • Age Has Nothing To Do With How It Feels To Transition Later In Life posted on November 20, 2018.
    Age has nothing to do with how it feels to transition later in life as we learn from these aging trans men and women. Here are 3 stories to warm your heart More
  • The Invisible Older Woman posted on September 16, 2018.
    The average older woman is still struggling with feelings of invisibility, but being made to feel invisible is not a good thing. Tasi talks about how to overcome this problem More
  • A Visual Record of the Joys, Fears and Hopes of Older Transgender People posted on August 23, 2018.
    This article deals with a largely unseen part of being transgender, that being the joys. fears and hopes of older transgender people. The photographer Jess T. Dugan and the professor Vanessa Fabbre have created a road map, archive and remarkably moving body of work about a group almost entirely left out of many narratives. More
  • Older. Wiser and More Stylish posted on June 4, 2018.
    You would think that being older, wiser and more stylish would be a given, but not so. In discussing fashion faux pas’ of trans women, high on the list was the perennial favorite of not dressing your age. We show you how older women can dress stylishly without looking like a millennial. More
  • The Best Disguise for Older Women is a Beautiful Dress! posted on November 3, 2017.
    What has happened to the feminine appearance of older women? Unkempt and slovenly. They need to set the example for younger women and this article discusses the role they need to play for the younger generations. More
  • Fixing Those Styling Problems for the Mature Lady posted on April 9, 2017.
    Styling problems become endemic as we grow older. Our bodies sag in the wrong places. We hide the areas we don't want seen. THe greatest of these problems is the Mid-Section, Here is What To Do More
  • Lessons Learned from Ageless Fabulous Women posted on March 27, 2017.
    Lessons learned from the women that prove age is a trivial matter, indeed. There is no copyright on style, and as long as it suits you, I say go for it. To get you on your way, these ageless fabulous women have given us their list of the most helpful, universal styling tricks you can steal that will work for just about every body More
  • Age Is Just A Number for Beauty Queens posted on September 10, 2016.
    Age is just a number which is why older people are great. They’ll tell you about the war, they’ll deliver you an old Werther’s Original from their purse and they’ll listen to you practice the trumpet even though you are terrible and need a lot of practice. But old people are more than just storytellers, candy-givers and listeners. They’re people, and they like to have fun like everyone else. Yep, you can be over 60 and be a beauty queen too More
  • Can You Be Fashionable After 60? posted on December 8, 2015.
    Can you be fashionable after 60? Definitely yes. Despite the ravages of aging, your sense of style gets better and more refined as you grow older. Some of the most fashionable people I know are over 60. More
  • The Challenges of Being Transgender and Over 60 posted on October 17, 2015.
    Transgender people and the issues that affect them have never been more visible. But life can be difficult for over-60s who transition gender. These real life stories highlight the struggle. More
  • Be Surprised About "Age Appropriate" Style posted on June 14, 2015.
    “I don’t believe women over 50 should be worried about what is appropriate and what is not. Obviously it’s important to be aware of what flatters the mature figure and what no longer works. Style has nothing to do with age, it is understanding what flatters your body, how to accentuate your best assets and deciding what makes you feel pretty. More
  • The Mature Woman posted on March 8, 2015.
    A look at the issues of the over 50 woman relating to aging and to style. A ongoing subject so check back often. More
Fashion by Tasi

“In addition to my blog, The Fashionable TG Woman, I also guest post on TG Forum. Some of my best articles are there. We thought they should be here too so you can scroll through the list below to find any that may be of interest to you”. The link takes you to a brief introduction and all of the articles are being converted to pdfs so you can download them if you wish

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