One of the most fascinating transitions in life that occurs in my opinion is watching a young girl transition into womanhood. For me, it’s somewhat of a bittersweet process because when I was that age, I found myself on the outside looking in, but for the most part, it’s such a sweet experience to watch a young girl blossom into a beautiful woman. Undoubtedly, the biggest mistake a young girl makes as she begins her transition into adulthood is wearing too much makeup. As adults, we realize that girls in their early teens are actually prettier without makeup, but these young girls associate makeup with growing up, and so there’s little that we parents can do as we watch from the sidelines.
So how does this pertain to girls like us and our own attempted transition into womanhood later in life? For genetic girls, the transition begins when she dons her first bra and starts to wear the aforementioned makeup. The bra of course is an under garment and must be covered by clothing, and so the first real form of outward expression that a young teen can use to announce to the world her womanhood is makeup. For girls like you and me, we also tend to emphasize our transition into woman using an article of clothing we can wear outwardly and openly.
From my own experience and from all of the emails I get from readers where they tell me about how they first started, the stories inevitably include sneaking a pair of pantyhose, borrowing panties from a sister, an infatuation with their mother’s slips, and in my case, all of the above. 🙂 Now, if we examine these three items, two of them are undergarments and must be hidden beneath clothing, but pantyhose are meant to be seen, so like the 12 year old girls who use makeup as their outward expression of womanhood, cross dressers inevitably use pantyhose as their means to show the world that “yes, we are entering womanhood too!” And to take the comparison one step further, cross dressers tend to overdo the prominence of pantyhose in their outfits the same way the 12 year-old girls overdo their makeup.
Pantyhose are a fashion faux pas these days, and so as we try to pass as crossdressers in public, we are at a difficult crossroads in that traditional pantyhose are no longer seen in the fashion world; yet, it’s just too difficult for girls like us to give up that one accessory that was an integral part of our journey to begin with. It’s my belief that girls like me who are unable to live their lives as women 24/7 are still in a sort of teenage phase where we want to show the world that we are women because we wear pantyhose. Up until recently, I couldn’t bear the thought of going out in public without my precious pantyhose; however, I was finally able to overcome that fear and produce some cute looks with bare legs as seen in the pics that I have scattered throughout this article. Still, I understand just how difficult it is to dress and not wear pantyhose, and so in this article, I will provide tips on how to downplay pantyhose as part of the wardrobe and emphasize other parts of the outfit more fitting to a girl’s current environment.
1. Dress appropriate to the occasion
If you are going to a bar that is friendly to crossdressers and t-girls, by all means wear a short skirt or dress, silky pantyhose, and 4″ heels because that is appropriate to the occasion. If visiting Home Depot, however, wearing any of the three aforementioned items is a no-no if your intention is to pass as a woman. I have never once been to a Home Depot and seen a woman wearing high heels, so just imagine what the other customers and workers would think if a rather tall-ish woman built like a linebacker was clicking around the concrete floors in heels. If she was wearing pantyhose and a dress or skirt, that only adds to the emphasis that this person is out of place, and it would be nigh unto impossible to successfully pass in that kind of situation.
I actually did visit a hardware store over the summer wearing a skirt, but it was a casual denim skirt paired with a sleeveless top, an outfit typical for a hot summer day as seen in the lead pic to this article. And no, I did not wear pantyhose, but I still looked cute as a girl. I estimate that I have about 30 days per year where I can dress as a woman and go out into public, and if I look back on the last three years of my crossdressing life, I’ve only worn a dress twice…once to attend the musical Wicked and once to a department store on a Sunday morning when I needed a new pair of pantyhose for church. On both of those occasions, I felt it was the appropriate setting for a woman to be wearing a dress, but I don’t recall seeing anyone else wearing pantyhose at either the department store or to the theater. The key is to adjust your outfit to what the other girls are wearing to increase one’s chances of passing in public.
2. Dress appropriate to your age
I think many of us cross dressers struggle with this one because no one likes to admit that they’re getting older, and 99% of us didn’t start attempting to cross dress in public until later in life, and so we’re dying to know what it would have been like to spend our teenage years or even that next decade in our twenties as a girl. As a result, we can’t help but to try on short skirts, high heels, and spaghetti strap tops that let our bra straps peek through. I love short skirts and camisoles as much as the next girl and don’t get me started on bra straps, but I constantly have to ask myself…how many forty-somethings do you see wearing a camisole, short skirt, and god forbid pantyhose all in the same outfit? The answer is never, and although I sometimes see women my age in the winter time wearing hosiery with wool shorts or wool skirts, it’s always opaque tights and never pantyhose.
The one time that I did wear shiny, suntan pantyhose with an outfit that included a camisole was in the summer when I went to get my car inspected. I chose a service station right next to a Gold’s Gym, and so along with my yellow strappy camisole, I wore black yoga pants, black ballet flats, and then suntan pantyhose beneath it all. You could see that I was wearing nylons if you looked down at my ankles, but the emphasis on the outfit was a woman on her way to the gym who just happened to be wearing exercise tights. If you are anxious to get out in public en femme (and who wouldn’t be?), I would recommend choosing a location along with a day of the week and time when you will make the attempt. Visit the location once or twice before your journey and note what the other women your age are wearing and adjust your outfit appropriately to increase your chances of passing. And if you happen to see another woman actually wearing nylons, don’t mimic her…mimic the majority. 😉
3. Dress in Current Fashion Trends
The most thrilling comment that I receive from readers is that I look like the girl next door, and I believe I get these comments because I largely dress in fashions that you could find at an everyday store like Old Navy. The fashion style is nothing classy, but it helps me to blend in with the female public when I’m out and about cross dressed.
One summer I had some girl time on the 4th of July, and so I decided to attend a little league baseball game. It was a typical hot summer day when most of the women would be wearing tops without sleeves, and so I went the extra mile by actually purchasing an Old Navy flag tank-top and pairing it with a short denim skirt that I wore to the game along with a pair of strappy sandals and of course no pantyhose. I painted my toenails red for the occasion and fit in with the other girls just fine. In my early years of experimental cross dressing, I would often visit parks wearing a dress or skirt along with pantyhose just for the experience, but I stayed in the shadows then. Nowadays, I like to mingle with the other women my age, and so it’s most important that I dress the same as them.
4. Wear a nude shade if you must wear pantyhose
I consider myself a very traditional girl, and as such, I will wear pantyhose with my outfit at least 90 percent of the time I venture out into public, but since I’m usually wearing very casual clothing, I always choose a nude shade of nylons to de-emphasize the fact that I’m even wearing hosiery. I love Barely There in the Hanes Silk Reflections line, and the nude shade in the L’eggs Silken Mist line is also a can’t miss. Besides showing off my legs, I also like to wear pantyhose because it helps me greatly to create a smooth front, and that’s one of the main reasons that I rarely leave the house with bare legs, but I always try my best not to make pantyhose the most prominent feature of my outfit, especially when I’m dressed casually.
As the saying goes, when in Rome, do as the Romans do, and when passing in public en femme, do as the women do. In the picture at right, I’m shopping for clothing in public dressed casually as a woman at an Abercrombie & Fitch outlet, so the question is…am I wearing pantyhose with my outft? The answer is “yes” because I’m a girl who doesn’t like to go out without wearing pantyhose, so when I do wear them, I try my best to make sure they aren’t going to draw the attention of anyone but me. 🙂