Working to Develop Your Own Personal Style

What does it take to develop your own personal style when you are basically starting from nothing? This can be a very daunting task that most people never have to deal with. People will change their styles over time but for many transgender folks they literally start with nothing; no clothes, no experience, no accessories, no products, nothing. That is at least how it began for me, when I finally began wearing female clothes about twenty years ago.

nadine spirit maxi and mini dressIn the beginning I was just thrilled that something that was made for the opposite gender was on my body, I didn’t really care all that much how it looked. I remember finding some article of clothing that looked cute on the hanger, taking it into the dressing room, getting it on my body, and determining then and there, that because I actually was able to get it on, I was going to purchase it. Thus I ended up with a whole lot of items that while made for women, and technically fitting my body, really didn’t reflect my own personal sense of style.

In reality, I was just so giddy to finally be allowing myself to wear female clothing items that I didn’t even realize that I had my own style. It took several things for me to finally begin to figure out that I actually had my own sense of style.

nadine spirit two mini skirtsNumber 1 – Time

Sorry, but there is no substitute for experience and the only way to gain experience is through time. Now, make sure that you actually use that time wisely by getting out and trying on as many clothes as possible. A good place to find lots of different items would be second hand stores.

Number 2 – Experiment

Get out there and try things on! Try on several sizes of the same items; you might be surprised how variable sizes can be, even within the same brand. Oftentimes I will just walk through a store and collect items that I would never normally even think about trying on. It is great when doing this in store like White House Black Market

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\wsas the sales associates will start a room for you and take back everything you pick and will often add to your collection with choices of their own.

nadine spirit LBD and midi skirt

Number 3 – Research

Watch shows involving fashion. My favorite would have to be Project Runway. I have followed this show ever since I found it many years ago. I also am a fan of women’s magazines like Marie Clare, Cosmopolitan, or Instyle (Tasi also suggests Allure).

Number 4 – Take pictures

I really did not understand just how off some of my outfits were until I saw myself in a photograph. It really helps to know what works and what just doesn’t.

nadine spirit mini and pants outfits

Number 5 – Get opinions

Now take this with a grain of salt sometimes. Frequently I will ask my wife what she thinks and we have completely different ideas about what will or won’t work. I will often go against what her opinion is and wear it anyways. Then a few hours later, she will come to me and let me know that my outfit actually looks far better than she first thought it would. Overall though, a second opinion can help clarify the positives or negatives of many looks.

5_optA personal style can be developed. You need to be committed. And you need to get past the thrill of just allowing yourself to wear the clothes.


3 thoughts on “Working to Develop Your Own Personal Style

  1. Hi there! This post couldn’t be written any better!
    Reading this post reminds me of my old room mate!
    He always kept talking about this. I will forward this write-up to him.

    Pretty sure he will have a good read. Many thanks for sharing!

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