Viewpoints

Viewpoints
Ladies with a special talent for challenging our thinking. Ashley talks about the uncomfortable questions that need to be discussed. Pandora is a confirmed devil’s advocate with thoughts on the roles and relationships affecting crossdressers and those around them. Terri Lee Ryan is the ex-wife of a crossdresser and a columnist in her own right with ChicagoNow who deals most directly with wives’ feelings. Then our guest columnists and the occasional thoughts from Tasi hopefully get you thinking in new directions.

  • Should Crossdressers Be Part of the Q in LGBTQ? posted on May 16, 2018.
    Should cross-dressers be part of the Q in LGBTQ. Terri Lee Ryan makes a solid argument for their inclusion in the Q.as many are still in the questioning and discovery phase of their self-identification More
  • What It Means To Be a Woman posted on November 12, 2017.
    Most of us don't grow up as a woman so do we really know what it means to be a woman? This article by Gretchen Kelly on sexual harrassment in the streets on Huffpost introduces us to a world unknown to most of us and we better be learning. Better still, we need to understand, adjust and support other women. More
  • The Despotism of Passing posted on September 19, 2017.
    Passing has become a "Be All" goal for many but it shouldn't be. Ciara takes us through the emotional ups and downs for reaching self-acceptance. More
  • She knows, But Is Not Supportive (Part II) posted on May 29, 2017.
    So you've told your S.O about your crossdressing and she's not supportive. Michelle walks us through the compromises and possible outcomes in this now changed relationship More
  • So You've Told Your S.O. About Your Crossdressing (Part I) posted on May 28, 2017.
    There's nothing quite so scary than telling your wife about your crossdressing. Michelle Johnson explains how important balance is in our relationship and how we can achieve it. More
  • Managing Your Desires posted on May 8, 2017.
    Managing your desires as a cross-dresser is not always easy. Recklessness needs to be left behind and replaced with a degree of management and compromise with our partners and families. You will benefit more and enjoy your cross-dressing more fully by doing so More
  • Cross-dressers....Can Your Marriage Survive? posted on March 19, 2017.
    Can your marriage survive cross-dressing is the question on most of our minds as more and more of us take that step out of the closet in our new enlightened age. Couples with a cross-dressing husband are struggling to find a balance in their relationship and in their marriages. More
  • Why Crossdressing Is Good For Your Health posted on November 25, 2016.
    After decades of frustration, I came to understand why crossdressing is good for your heaIth. I finally embraced a life-long desire to express feminine feelings as a M2F crossdresser and committed to a sophisticated modern lady look. At about the same time, I also committed to a much healthier lifestyle and in retrospect now believe that was no coincidence More
  • How To Save Your Marriage When You Dress in Public posted on November 21, 2016.
    How to save your marriage when you dress in public is an increasingly new phenomena in the crossdressing community. As more cross-dressers are coming out of the shadows and dressing in public, their marriages are becoming increasingly more stressful. Terri Lee Ryan gives us tips on how to re achieve balance in your spousal relationship. More
  • Understanding Crossdressing and Why It's Not a Problem posted on September 16, 2016.
    I believe I now understand crossdressers, and people who call themselves gender fluid. They are similar to transgender people in some ways, but different in many others. Noah Sanchez explores the many facets of crossdressing, gender fluidity, and transgenderism in the reprint of a Buzzfeed article More
  • The Cross-dresser's Challenge for Acceptance posted on July 3, 2016.
    For years cross-dressers have remained in the shadows, fearful of coming out in public with a secret that they have been hiding since they were a child. But now is the time to come out of the shadows if we are to ever get the acceptance says Teri Lee Ryan More
  • Coming Out Gently posted on July 1, 2016.
    Coming out Gently is an encouraging tale to help all those considering how to tell others about your feminist self. More
  • What is the Future for the Cross-dressing Community? posted on June 8, 2016.
    The cross-dressing community may be taking a backseat in the public dialogue on transgender women. So what is the future for the cross-dressing community who are fortunately coming out more often in public presenting as their fem self, while sharing their long-held secret with their loved ones? More
  • Does Being Transgender Make You a Better Person posted on May 31, 2016.
    Being transgender is a complex and fascinating subject so I challenge you with the question, Does being transgender make you a better person? Gina answers the question in a most sharp-witted and humorous way. More
  • My Cross-dressing Husband Looks Better Than Me posted on April 1, 2016.
    A cross-dressing husband will strain any martial relationship but what happens when a cross-dresser looks better than his wife? Teri deals with this most sensitive of issues with some helpful tips More
  • Confessions of a Cross-dresser's Wife posted on December 23, 2015.
    A cross-dresser's wife tells all. What is it that is so terrible about a cross-dressing husband that sends wives into rage and depression? Find out here. More
  • I Am Not a Lesbian posted on December 21, 2015.
    A lesbian relationship between cross-dressers and their wives continues to be a major issue in their marriage as they attempt to achieve a balance in their relationship. A lesbian relationship does not work for the wife and endangers the marriage. More
  • The "Other Woman" in Your Marriage posted on November 22, 2015.
    The other woman becomes an obsession to the wife married to a crossdresser and is often the final blow to marriage. Terri explains this situation. Is it a no-win or are there alternatives More
  • The Feminist Crossdresser posted on November 19, 2015.
    The face of cross dressing has been changing over the last twenty years, We are now seeing the emergence of the feminist crossdresser. However not all of us have this sense of being a woman and Miqqi Gilbert discusses this most important issue More
  • Tips for "Coming Out" One Stiletto at a Time posted on August 27, 2015.
    Here are some helpful "coming out" tips to integrate cross-dressing into your married life. It means being prudent when you present as a woman. Take it slow but get out into the world, With support and the right time and place, you will have a whole new experience More
  • Where Do Cross-dressers Fit into the Transgender Community? posted on August 7, 2015.
    Where do cross-dressers fit in the transgender community is becoming a consuming topic with the plethora of new trans shows in the media. Terri Lee Ryan explores the subject with some challenges for us More
  • The Power of Being You posted on July 30, 2015.
    Caitlyn Jenner has demonstrated true happiness through the power of being herself. She has shown us a path to follow if we are honest and willing enough to do it More
  • Tips for a Satisfying Sex Life with Your Wife posted on May 10, 2015.
    A satisfying sex life with your wife is crucial in a relationship where one partner is a cross-dresser. It is the most challenging issue for your wife even when there is strong love between them. Terri deals with this most difficult of all issues. Pay attention to her tips. More
  • Unexpressed Anger Kills Marriages posted on April 22, 2015.
    The crossdresser's wife may have years of unexpressed anger. She resents her sacrifices and compromises, especially when revealed late and this kills marriages. Read Terri's take on this situation and a possible solution More
  • 10 Reasons Cross-Dressers' Wives Divorce Them posted on April 10, 2015.
    The initial shock of finding out that your husband is a cross-dresser is a life-changing event for many marriages. Women genuinely do not take the news well. Terri explores ten of the reasons that these marriages end in divorce. Later articles will explore each reason in more depth More
  • Delusion or Confusion? Fetish or Fulfillment? posted on September 5, 2014.
    What is it with crossdressers? Delusion or Confusion? Fetish or Fulfillment? The key to passing or acceptance is an acceptable appearance. More
  • Passing "Guaranteed" posted on January 25, 2014.
    Passing is not just about appearances, there's something else more important. Lisa Empanada. a transgender woman from Philadelphia, tells us the key ingredient in the mix. More
  • An Update on Helen Boyd of "My Husband Betty" posted on December 29, 2013.
    Helen Boyd, author of "My Husband Betty" and "She's Not the Man I Married" are probably two of the most widely read books ever about life with a crossdresser. Vivienne Marcus, a New Zealander TG blogger, was able to interview Helen and gain some further remarkable insights into Helen's life. More
  • Further Thoughts on Male Image posted on December 5, 2013.
    The discussion about male image continues as Pandora addresses some differing opinions. More
  • How Your Crossdressing Changes Your Wife's Opinion of You posted on November 10, 2013.
    Women internalize things in a way that most men don’t, and all those internalized experiences and impressions have a strong impact on how women feel about male image. Your relationship could be at risk. Understand why! More
  • Where's the Line: Crossdressing to Transition posted on November 1, 2013.
    I’ve never said this aloud to anyone before, but I’ve always felt like a girl inside, from the time I was in nursery school. A line often heard by therapists. How do we tell the difference. Reid talks to the issue. More
  • Further Discussions on our Need to Place Ourselves in Peril posted on October 18, 2013.
    Why do we wish to go through all this? Why does a woman want to? We can imagine why, the social pressure to conform to society’s ideals of a feminine standard which changes through the years anyhow and sometimes we place ourselves in peril. Helen deals with the issue More
  • Acceptance is our Key Issue posted on October 15, 2013.
    As a person of the gender diverse community, I have a desire to be a part of our community of people. However I was struck by the lack of structure and cohesion. Unfortunately I didn't find one group that represents a community, only individuals and small groups claiming a position of leadership or representation. We need leadership to help gain acceptance. Where are you? More
  • How Social Networks and Digital Drama Are Hurting Our Community posted on September 20, 2013.
    Facebook. Twitter. Linked In. Hell, even Myspace. All wonderful resources but are they helpful to our community? Ashley has some strong opinions on the subject and they likely have merit. More
  • Owning It posted on March 17, 2013.
    It’s not easy being transgendered. Risk is all around us. Living “stealth’ or “living in the closet”. Both are harmful. Ashley will explore why in addition to many other topics relating to the growth of our femininity. Are you up to the challenges? More
  • The Relationship Scale posted on March 13, 2013.
    Our stone-age wiring still tells us that Yin needs a Yang. It has nothing to do with love More

Voice Feminization


Nina IraniThis section talks about voice feminization and how you can improve your voice to achieve acceptance  into the world at large. Our posts in 2015 offer many online resources, but it wasn’t until we met Nina in 2017 that we truly made progress in achieving our voice feminization goals through My Female Voice

 

Ask Astrid

Ask Astrid
Let Astrid walk you through the basics of simple etiquette and give you the confidence to feel socially secure as a woman about town.

  • The Etiquette of Primping in Public posted on August 1, 2017.
    Primping in public is often considered rude, but if done discreetly, that quick fix can be unnoticeable and still have you looking your best. Here are some great hints about how to do those quick fixes and still be considered polite More
  • More on Dining posted on May 29, 2014.
    For some reason, maybe because we sit together and focus more closely on each other, Ladies dining seems to get the lion’s share of attention when it comes to etiquette discussions. Astrid, rather than focusing on one aspect of dining, is going to touch briefly on several considerations. More
  • To Fix or Not To Fix posted on December 10, 2013.
    We’ve all experienced the sinking sensation of being in public and realizing that something needed to be fixed. Do we fix it on the spot or not? More
  • Do You Play the Cello? posted on October 9, 2013.
    Much has been written in recent years about the declining standards in table manners. The reasons given are many, but regardless of what they may be, it’s important that we, as women who aspire to being ladylike, do not follow this trend downwards. More
  • Verbal Collisions posted on September 9, 2013.
    Men interrupt far more often than women. What is important, though, is to consider what this information means for TGs. Does this kind of male-predominant behavior disappear when you’re in femme mode, or is it so deeply ingrained that it comes along for the ride even though you’re wearing a fantastic outfit and getting appreciative looks? More
  • What Is Etiquette? posted on August 13, 2013.

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