After decades of frustration, I came to understand why crossdressing is good for your heaIth. I finally embraced a life-long desire to express feminine feelings as a M2F crossdresser and committed to a sophisticated modern lady look. At about the same time, I also committed to a much healthier lifestyle and in retrospect now believe that was no coincidence.
Successful cross-dressing to achieve a desirable feminine image has clearly been a motivator for improving my health in many ways. So now, through this article, I encourage others to set cross-dressing goals to improve and maintain good health.
Imagine an anxious, obese, foul breathed, blotchy/wrinkly skinned, middle-aged man who looked much older than his chronological age, needed a handful of prescription medications, had no real social life (too busy working!), was short of breath after climbing one flight of stairs, slept fitfully, and was near estrangement with almost all family members. Right-That was me!
Today I am often perceived to be at least 20, if not 30 years younger both in looks, energy, and attitude. My relationships and career are at all-time highs and I’ve never been more confident and convincing. I no longer take those prescription drugs, my kids think I am “cool”, my wife thinks I’m fun to be around, and strangers often say I am a beautiful person inside and out. I feel fabulous!
I envisioned a desirable classy woman image and did whatever was naturally possible to achieve that result. This article addresses some of the physical goals and positive health impacts I experienced. There were others including emotional and psychological health benefits that were quite remarkable. Those may be the subject of a future article.
Issues and Benefits
Oral Hygiene: You are never fully dressed without a smile! Look around – you are likely to notice that one of the most attractive features a woman can have is a winning smile with a brilliant set of teeth. It starts with good oral hygiene. Daily brushing and flossing is a foundation and anyone serious about bad breath and gum disease takes further steps such as twice yearly dental cleaning and checkups. It’s easy to find evidence, from articles in popular health magazines and serious to medical studies on oral hygiene to learn that maintaining a healthy mouth may also ward off a surprising range of other medical issues. Today I brush my teeth at least twice a day and sometimes more as a low calorie way to temporarily satisfy and ward off hunger cravings! This has helped with diet and weight management. When someone says “Smile for the camera” – I don’t hesitate.
Hydration: The difference between grapes and raisins is water. A secret to firm facial skin is proper internal hydration. Yes, there are lotions and gels to apply topically, but drinking adequate water helps naturally from the inside out. Of course water helps internal organ function, is an aide to digestion, and provides a feeling of fullness when hungry to again ward off hunger cravings. Now, I drink lots of water daily and more when booking a makeover because experienced makeup artists request at least a couple days of maximum hydration to achieve a firm skin tone. Water works wonders.
Diet: Nothing tastes as good a being skinny. It was frustrating to have so few stylish or fashionable wardrobe choices, and those that were available were not consistent with my imagined shapely slender classy lady image. With a simple low calorie/low carbohydrate diet and daily exercise over a year, more than 70 pounds melted away! My motivation was clear: a diverse high quality classy lady wardrobe. Today, depending on designer and style, I can wear a size 12 to 16. Goodbye Mumu collection! I now have many more choices! I slowly eat small portions, and always with utensils – never with my hands. Doing this contributes to an important ladylike appearance when dining out and fewer bites compared to my former pace. Not surprisingly, weight reduction resolved many related health issues notably hypertension – my Doctors were as delighted as I was!
Posture: Good posture is a key visual identifier of good health and most anyone can have it. A beautiful classy lady sits upright, stands tall, and walks with confidence. This is easier said than done and requires a great deal of practice however the health benefits are many. Stress reduction, stronger core muscles, and less pain are three of the most cited health benefits of good posture. Today, I am confident when professional photographers ask me to pose in ways that benefit the camera but are not naturally comfortable – however I can achieve those positons because of good posture practices gained through activities such as yoga. I must admit that when wearing heels, my posture and attitude naturally snap to attention and I am much more conscious of my body movements. My friends tell me that my posture signals good taste, refinement, and harmony. Who wouldn’t want to hear that?
Toning: A toned body is healthier, not just sexier. Nice women’s clothes look better on a toned body. Regardless of weight, a body with less fat and more muscle, up to a point, appears healthier. As a bonus, a toned body is usually more capable and confident on the dance floor. To maintain a toned appearance, I work with smaller sized weights and do higher reps and take a brisk long walk daily. Doing this has, so far, helped greatly.
Photos of that toned well-proportioned pretty woman are of me today. Would you believe my chronological age in these images is ……Ooooops! That is still a secret, but regardless of age, I feel great and hope you think I look it too.
Inspiration for a healthy lifestyle can come from anywhere and I believe that successful crossdressing was an important one for me. Doing my best to appear as a beautiful well-kept classy woman was a surprisingly pleasant and powerful motivator! This can work for you too!
Side Benefit: Remember that a healthier you is not a selfish goal. Sure, you’ll feel better yourself but if you are healthier, everyone around you will also benefit. Living longer and being more engaged as a parent, partner, or colleague is a bonus. When you are healthy and fit, life is better for everyone all around you.
About the Author
Nora Simone is a contributing author to Sister House. Her writing and images have been featured in magazines distributed globally. Recently she has focused on health and wellness issues associated with transliving and crossdressing. She is also busy researching an article titled “A Thinking Man’s Guide to Crossdressing Makeovers” having had nearly 20 different artists (at last count) work their magic on her in the past year.