Standards of Dress and Behavior
We are not an arbiter of personal taste but you are in the public eye, you are in a foreign country, and more than likely you do not speak Spanish (and yes, we will teach you a few important phrases) You are a representative of your country and a representative for transgender women, so certain standards of behavior and dress are expected.
And yes, you will likely be read. One, you are a foreigner and probably tall. People will notice. Yucateans are usually quite short. And then, two, any non-feminine behaviors will be noticed.
However, the Mayan people are extremely polite and usually very laid back. Nothing will ever be said. And Merida has a large gay community which is centered in the downtown centro area. More than likely you will be thought gay if they notice because they have little acquaintance with the transgender world.
Nevertheless, it is important that we be ambassadors for our transgender community and display ladylike behavior at all times. Read that courteous, polite and dressed appropriately for the occasion. If you run into difficulty, help is available. If you don’t understand appropriate dress, then download my book, the “Top Ten Fashion Mistakes by Crossdressers and How To Fix Them” available free on the Sister House website
Be considerate of others at all times This is almost a golden rule here in the Yucatan. My neighbor gave me a small box of chocolates because I let her handyman borrow my ladder. Courtesies are expected. Families are large and usually loud in restaurants. Friends greet each other with a hug and a kiss on the cheek, even the men. This is normal. Whatever rude and inconsiderate things you may have heard about Mexicans, it’s probably not true.
We will have occasions when you can dress to the nines or even wear that overtly sexual outfit, but in the hotel public areas or in the streets is not one of those times. The women here dress well, wear heels more often than not, and do like their clothing skin tight. Please don’t try to emulate them. You won’t do it very well. Needless to say, disruptive behavior will not be tolerated either.
And do not ever get involved with drugs. You do not want to spend time in a Mexican jail.
Some Dress Guidelines
You are here to have fun as a woman, so dress like one, be it casual or classic. No mixed boy/girl mode please. Although you can expect temperatures in the 70s, here are some suggestions from one of my favorite fashion gurus on dressing for a heat wave.
If you have any questions about what is usual and customary for dress here in Merida, ask Bessy. Bessy is an American-born Yucatean (female) from one of the better families of Merida. You can be assured that her advice will be spot-on.
Our activities will range from very casual to upscale dressy so a range of suitable clothing will be necessary. We’ll indicate the dress range for each occasion on the final schedule. There are more guidelines at the end of this section.
Makeup artists (hopefully) will be available in the hotel for both makeovers and touchups. Check for details when you arrive
In all honesty, I read a lot of fashion blogs and nary a day goes by when I don’t see some woman in an outrageous or seductive outfit. So what to use as a standard. Age-appropriate, body-appropriate, occasion-appropriate, all are open to interpretation. If you want to dress like a hooker, go to the bus station. That’s where they are. But here you’ll find that even the drag queens dress well.